24 November 2017
Do you struggle to know what to do or say when it comes down to talking about cancer? Throughout this article we will be giving advice from women who are currently living with breast cancer and different ways we can help support those who have it.
- Stop talking as though we can “beat it" as this starts to drain the person. The idea of “beating” breast cancer suggests that the outcome is within their control. However, this isn’t the case, they don’t ask for this to return and they especially have no control on what happens if it does.
- Sending the odd text or call to a friend or relative is a great way of letting them know you are there for them. Saying something is better than saying nothing – it is important for people to know that they have a support network.
- While it is nice for people who are living with breast cancer to know that you’re there, that isn’t always what that person wants to talk about. One survivor told us, “Everyone is different – some women may want to talk while others prefer to keep it to themselves. It’s best to judge the situation as you see fit, and speak at a level that the patient is comfortable with, for some it’s best to say nothing at all."
- Families are people’s support systems, they are there for you no matter what. So if a family member is diagnosed with cancer, make sure you are still spending quality time with them doing the things they love.
Silver linings really do exist. Many women, whether they are in the middle of their treatment journey, continue to live with cancer or are cleared from cancer, experience positive memories making friendships and meeting wonderful people along the way, making them who they are.