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Here are some common unhelpful thinking patens we can experience every day

Unhelpful Thinking patterns

The following are some of the common unhelpful thinking patterns we all experience, particularly when we are upset or stressed.

BLACK AND WHITE THINKING – This is when we see things as either/or, good/bad, right/wrong e.g. I can’t get anything right, Either this will be successful or a complete failure. We might want to ask ourselves if it is truly one or the other? Aren’t there always shades of grey, is there a balance between these two possibilities?

MIND READING – This is when we assume we know what other people are thinking about us e.g. They think I’m such an idiot for blushing and stammering through that sentence. We might wonder how we know what others think, do they know what we are thinking? Is it possible that they are my worries about myself and not what they are thinking? What are the other ways they might be thinking?

CATASTROPHISING – This is when we assume that things have gone completely wrong or will do. We imagine the worst possible scenario and believe that this is what will happen e.g. Now I’m going to get fired as this is the worst mistake I could possibly make, They are going to dump me and I will be alone forever. Sometimes it can be important to think about how likely this is to really happen or what is more realistic? Also, to notice that I’m catastrophizing and label it as that rather than a realistic prediction about the future.

SHOULDS, MUSTS AND OUGHTS – We often internalise the expectations the world puts on us as unrealistic expectations e.g. I should always be the best at what I do, I must get everything right, I ought to know what to do in this situation. Recognising the pressure we put on ourselves and challenging the obligation we place on ourselves is important here- where does this pressure come from? Do we think it is fair to measure ourselves against these ideals? How could we be fairer on ourselves?

EMOTIONAL REASONING – This is when we believe that our (often anxious) feelings about something mean that it becomes true e.g. It feels like something bad is going to happen therefore it will, I feel so anxious there must be something wrong with me. Often it is important to remember that feeling something to be true doesn’t mean that it is going to be/come true. My feelings come from how I think about things and not always an external reality.

These are some of the more common thinking errors that I have come across in working with my clients. Being able to recognise them for yourself can be the first step towards being able to distance yourself from them and free yourself up to more helpful ways of thinking.

Dr Sara Trayman, Counselling Psychologist

Please feel free to contact Dr Trayman on 07799052241 or counsellingpsychology@hotmail.com for consultation about referrals or to make an appointment. Her clinic is on Wednesday afternoons between 12.30 and 5.30pm.

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